What’s going on, family!
Welcome back to Life With Lexis Kai Blog. I’ve been in bed all weekend. At the start of this post, I was getting off Jade’s Cult YT live.
What am I writing about today? We’re supposed to be under a winter storm. Snow, ice, rain, all that, right? Well, we haven’t gotten much weather at all, minus some wind.
I’m here with my husband, laying his head in my lap. My life is damn near perfect, yet I find myself forced to stop ruminating or catastrophizing.
So I’m asking myself: Am I reaching my upper limit?
The Upper Limit Question
In years past, Jade recommended we read The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. In her recent YouTube Live, she referenced this recommendation again, using her own examples to describe what reaching your upper limit looks like.
The short answer is self-sabotage. That topic has been coming up again recently. It makes me ask myself again: What do you do when God gives you what you ask for?
When Success Triggers Self-Sabotage
It’s like me growing my business and career development service business, The Mommy Mogul Consulting. Over the past 60 days, I’ve made so much headway. I attended entrepreneurship events and built my website. I drafted service contracts and advertised my services to potential clients.
Yet, I stopped responding to emails as of Tuesday night.
It’s now Sunday.
At first, I told myself, “I’m just taking a break.” “I’m resting, right now.” Not saying that rest isn’t important, but at some point it becomes avoidance.
Besides, I know that speed is the name of the game in business. Now both of my clients have backed out, and I panicked, rescheduling my Black History Month event to Juneteenth. Potentially strategic, but at the same time a bit impulsive.
How can I avoid self-sabotaging when I’m right on the cusp of my successful breakthrough? I wish I knew. Actually, when you find out, let me know!
The Dredging Metaphor
But seriously, I had a conversation with my husband recently about dredging. Shout-out to Mr. Fiore, my high school environmental science teacher!
Dredging is a technique used to deepen bodies of water to make room for larger cargo ships. It was a big deal in Jacksonville, back when I was in high school, as some transportation companies were lobbying to dredge the Saint Johns River.
In the conversation with Papa, I used dredging to illustrate going deeper within one’s self. This process is the key to building one’s capacity.
With all the new things going on in my life right now: Heaven’s health issues, new marriage, resigning from my job (update soon), I’m realizing more and more I can’t just run away from shit. I have to face it head-on.
Now, how do I do that without blowing a head gasket? By taking the time I need for myself. By being honest with my capacity, or lack thereof. By listening to my body, knowing that sometimes I can misread the cues (high libido = time to create something), and by building self-trust through consistency and repetition.
Overall, I beat my upper limit by going deeper within. With intention, care, and ritual, all things are very divine and spiritual.
An Invitation to Build Capacity
What’s your upper limit look like, and how do you combat it?
Building your capacity is exactly what Live Life Lavish University is about. In fact, Module 1 is about creating space for the life you deserve. I’m welcoming 10 women to join the Founding Circle. Apply today.
Until next time,
Cousin Lex
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